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[personal profile] alatefeline
I don't know how to fix this.

It's almost worse that I almost, almost have myself together, but I don't quite - not to where I can really just get through the stuff I need to get through readily, or feel like there's extra energy there that I don't urgently need to use on things if I could just make myself do them. I don't have an excuse, and I don't have a plan.

The world has so many people doing terrible things.

ETA: Will hang in there. Did some things. Tomorrow will do different things. Always trying to be kind.

Date: 26 Jul 2017 21:48 (UTC)
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Date: 26 Jul 2017 21:49 (UTC)
sweet_sparrow: Picture of two cats lying back-to-back with two black spots connecting to make a heart. (E: Heart)
From: [personal profile] sweet_sparrow
*sends love and good thoughts* I can offer a thread of bunny pictures? I know it probably doesn't help much, but I hope it accomplishes something good even so.

Date: 26 Jul 2017 21:50 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] curiosity
*offers tasty beverage and small cookies and a comfy fleece blanket*

Date: 26 Jul 2017 21:54 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] spiralsheep
The world has so many people doing terrible things.

But you aren't one of them, and they are responsible for themselves and their actions. You are responsible for yourself and your actions but only as far as you are able. You're not required to be a fictional heroine. Repairing the world isn't magicking up a civilisation. Repairing the world includes being as kind as possible in each moment to whoever your life touches, including yourself.

Date: 26 Jul 2017 22:02 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alexseanchai
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Date: 26 Jul 2017 22:48 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] rootsofthestories
It's so scary, I know. I had to take today and mostly just...walk away from the world. It was hurting to watch all the things taking place but you know what? That's okay. It's not my job to fix it all. It's my job to do what I can, when I can, for those who need me.

Note: I am not saying this is your job too. You take care of yourself first and then you figure out what to do.

Everything is awful and nothing feels safe or like it's going to be okay but it is not your job to fix that. Take care of yourself first, treat yourself kindly and with care, then reach out a little bit at a time. Any kindness you offer to those around you is an act against those who are out there fucking things up.

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Date: 26 Jul 2017 22:50 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jewelfox
They'll still be there destroying the world tomorrow. There's nothing we can do to change that.

You being here makes the world a much better place. You being yourself makes it better. You being kind to others makes it harder for them to be destroyed.

Please continue to do all these things. Please give yourself (or ask for) the care that you need in order to do so. Please be.

We hope that you feel better soon. *hugs*

Date: 26 Jul 2017 23:20 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] thnidu
I can add nothing to what has been said above, except a prayer for you. Dear friend I've never met, take care of yourself.

Date: 26 Jul 2017 23:27 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] desertroot
*curls up near one of our favorite cats (aka alatefeline)*

*offers to groom wings*

Date: 26 Jul 2017 23:27 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] hollymath
<3

Date: 26 Jul 2017 23:49 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ng_moonmoth
The world also has a whole lot more people doing good things. You are one of them. All of us who do good things, and who bear witness as they are able to against the terrible things some people do, are the force by which the world gradually becomes a better place. I appreciate your efforts because they have their own worth, and also in the hope that I can share some of my extra energy with you and thereby strengthen your own voice.

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Date: 27 Jul 2017 00:31 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] vladdraculea
What everyone else said.

Also, 💜 *offers kitty-style consensual silk-dragon hugs if wanted* 💜

— Sage

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Date: 27 Jul 2017 00:41 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] siliconshaman
I think the words of J.R.R. Tolken say it best:

Gandalf: Saruman believes that it is only great power that can hold evil in check. But that is not what I have found. I've found it is the small things, everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keeps the darkness at bay. Simple acts of kindness and love.

*hugs*

Just do small everyday things, simple acts of kindness and love, no more than you can manage... and all will be well eventually.

Yes, there a great many powerful people doing terrible things... and there are literally billions of ordinary folk, doing small things, wearing away at them like drops of water carving a canyon.
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Date: 27 Jul 2017 01:35 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] chalcedony_px4

(+) I'm sorry. x..x

(−) Should we ask whether it was anything specific? You can PM us if you want.

Date: 27 Jul 2017 01:40 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kyleri
lots of people have made good words above so *hugs* *tea* *cats* hang in there & we will get through this together

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Date: 27 Jul 2017 01:53 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redsixwing
*scritches* *hidey blankets* *tea*

I am right now having tea and thinking of you. The responsibility is not yours alone to fix it.

It's been a hard few days, though, hasn't it?

Date: 27 Jul 2017 03:23 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sebenikela
it's really hard and scary and i always feel like i should be doing more but as a wise friend told me, "more is infinite, you are not"

<3 <3 <3

Date: 27 Jul 2017 03:50 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lilacsigil
I'm feeling very much the same today.

Date: 27 Jul 2017 08:09 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] cmcmck
Feeling the same ennui today so hugs.

Date: 28 Jul 2017 00:29 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] johnpalmer
Remember to be kind to yourself as well.

It took me many years of pounding my head against a metaphorical wall to realize that I really was doing as much as I reasonably could, and try to forgive myself for not doing more. Most people do the best they can, most of the time. And just because an external critic might think you're not trying hard enough, doesn't mean you *aren't* trying as hard as you can.

Did I ever tell you my dividing line metaphor?

I imagine I tell my inner child to do X_Chore, and don't forget, spanking *is* on the table if it's not done.

(It doesn't have to be spanking - that's what I use because that's what happened to me when I was a kid. But since no children are actually being spanked, or even in danger of it, it works for the metaphor.)

If I get stompy feet and slammed doors and "mumbled" comments about how I'm the MEANEST person in the WHOLE WORLD - well, then I get to work. I'm tired, and don't want to, but I *can*.

If I get a complete meltdown, screaming, wailing, kicking feet against the floor, then I *can't*. And trying to pretend that I *can* will cost me a lot in both physical and emotional energy. In an emergency? It will get done. But in a non-emergency, but boy have those dishes piled up (I live alone so it's my own problem if the dishes are piled up), I'll give myself the night off.

(Obviously, there's even less screaming and wailing than there is a threat of a spanking. I'm talking about a kind of child-level emotional response to the "go do it. Now. OR ELSE!")

It helps me sort out where I am on the fatigue scale, so it's helpful to me. I'm also emotionally perceptive, so I usually can tell when, if I was a youngish child, a meltdown would happen.

Since I *have* a standard, it's easier to forgive myself for not being able to Do Everything I Should if I hold to that standard. I'm allowed to scold myself if I didn't wash the dishes, and, I was just lazy - I could have done it with some stompy feet and mumbled "so MEAN!" responses.

Date: 28 Jul 2017 19:41 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] fyreharper
<3

Date: 28 Jul 2017 19:47 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sinisterporpoise
"tikam olam?" as I understand it, is not something someone can do alone. I know I'm butchering the spelling, and probably the concept. It's my understanding that you don't have to be Jewish to work towards this goal, but as I am not Jewish, I wouldn't bet on me being right.

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