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Instead of New Year’s Resolutions, I’m doing New Month Resolutions. I think this is preferable because setting a personal goal for one month lets me assess and redirect. This gives me the opportunity to go from beginning to end in a short enough time frame to think through each day and week of working with that goal, to diagnose what helped and what didn’t help. It means that if I meet my goal, I can set a new goal that build on it, or turn to another area. If I don’t meet my goal, I can reframe it, or focus elsewhere for awhile. I can do each of these several times, if necessary. By the end of the year, I should hopefully have twelve interesting experiments in hacking my own brain to achieve things.

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I sort of had to reinvent the wheel on this one, because I needed it to be *my* wheel. In spite of having awesome examples of people who set goals, meet goals, fall short of goals and reassess, and set new goals in front of me literally every day. Read more... )

Apparently for a lot of people, breaking a goal down exhaustively for how to do it and measure it isn’t strictly required. Read more... )

For January, my resolution is a daily writing goal.
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I am still feeling my way with online posting and commenting etiquette. At times, I realized (too late, or almost) that something probably needed better context and/or a warning for what it was about, if I’m trying to be respectful of other people’s choice to not be startled by an upsetting topic, which I would like to be. Recently I had a couple of these conversations in the comments on someone else’s stuff.

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For two of those cases I mentioned above, I’m going to be posting the message in question below the cut right here.

Content Warnings below the cut: #1: general anger at society; for the external article link: people dying of sheer neglect. #2: discussion of anxiety and (short-term) loss of mental control.

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You know, this was WAY more effort to provide content warning than the topics probably merited, especially since they both already had some context? But this is a learning process.
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Turning Up the Volume: Sound

* This is a post on coping skills. It is specifically about using loud and/or attention grabbing sounds to help manage sensory difficulties and improve one’s mood. I have A LOT of caveats about giving advice, which you can find: here .

* Someday I may possibly make a post about self-care and avoiding overload for people at the intersection of sensory processing difficulties and anxiety. This is not that post. This is about when you WANT overload, or at least, the maximum possible stimulation of a sense that doesn’t cause damage or hurt bad.

* Content Warnings for this subset of my coping skills posts: things people have to cope with; annoying sensory, somatic, and psychological states; potential discussion of R-rated coping skills; medically inadvisable activities; part of a work in progress.

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I was inspired by dialecticdreamer to actually describe in detail and write about some coping skills. So today I sat down and began writing - because it will eventually become a much longer list - some of the things I do to cope with life and/or make it more interesting. Purely because this was the sub-set of things I had on my mind when I actually started writing, I focused on the sections about getting outside. Here is a list of some activities, in sections. I may post sections of additional, different activities and strategies for surviving them - some of the ones I have thought of are basic physical self-care, body care for the utterly unstylish, self-expression and positive self-talk, geek social activities, R-rated coping strategies both helpful and not, non-religious spiritual type stuff I have actually tried and how it worked out for me, work and job-hunting, and each of the five senses. But today I focused on getting outdoors. Caveats and content below the cut. Content Warning: coping skills, stuff people have to cope with, swearing.

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Purpose:
I'm identifying and describing myself to make it easier for people to talk to me, for me to find community, to point out some common interests, to make it simpler for anyone who chooses to call me on blinkered or privileged thinking, and to avoid inadvertently misrepresenting myself. Because people do change over time, this post is also subject to change.

Names and Pronouns:
Please call me alatefeline on Dreamwidth. I prefer they/them pronouns. Read more... )

Regarding access and subscriptions: I subscribe to people's journals readily if I like reading stuff they post. Feel free to subscribe to mine or not as you like. Basically nothing on my journal is access locked, so please don't feel like it means much if I don't grant you access / accidentally hit the grant access button. I will update if and when this needs to change.

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